It’s February already (how is that even possible?) and Valentine’s Day is sneaking up on us quickly. We thought it would be a perfect opportunity to take a deep dive into relationships. We don’t just mean romantic relationships, but everyone! From friends, to peers, to coworkers… can you tell what makes for a great relationship? You probably know how it feels, but we at The Therapy Room want to help you define what makes it a good one or what makes it a relationship you’d want to unsubscribe from.
It’s probably no surprise that our first topic would be THE fundamental component of a relationship. The building block which all other things are built on.
We are not talking about just romantic and intimate relationships. Trust is important in friendships, professional relationships, parental-child relationships; all of them. When evaluating your relationship, start here. We think trust encompasses a lot of ideas- vulnerability, communication, and honesty. All of these are crucial to have before we talking about the fun stuff. When you think about a good or bad relationship, ask yourself some questions:
1. Can I be honest with my feelings with this person?
2. Are my feelings dismissed or taken seriously?
3. Can I disagree peacefully with this person?
If the answer is no to any of these questions, it may be a good time to schedule a counseling session to take a deeper look at your relationships.
Another common question is what about in situations where trust was broken? You might think, if the foundation is broken, and trust is gone, then surely the relationship is doomed. We can’t say this enough: foundations can be fixed! In fact, watching videos of foundation repair is a slight obsession… but just like you can imagine, it’s hard work that you honestly have to be committed to before it’s attempted. The answer to this lies within you. You get to decide the fate of the relationship. Ask yourself these questions:
1. Do you trust this person in other ways?
2. Are you willing to forgive and move past this?
3. Is the other person capable of being completely honest?
I’ve met some wonderful people in my experience, many of whom have dealt with infidelity of spouses, struggling friendships and other very challenging relationship dynamics. I’ve seen marriages made whole again and friendships be repaired.
It boils down to one thing: Are you willing to work for it?
Are you willing to openly talk about your feelings honestly with your partner, friend or whoever? It’s so easy to run away from relationships when they get tough and assume the grass will be greener elsewhere.
The truth is, no matter where you go, what you do, or who you’re with, there WILL be difficulty within relationships. Running from difficult relationships will NOT solve problems, it will only continue to perpetuate an unhealthy cycle of relationship challenges.
If you’re struggling with relationships, The Therapy Room can help. Let us help you work through boundary issues, effective communication, marriage struggles and trust issues. We are here to help you grow! You can, you will.